Comments on: Accept The Things I Cannot Change http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/ Stories, Struggles And Success of A Recovering Addict Trying to Do What Winners Do Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:53:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Facing Problems Head On In Recovery http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/comment-page-1/#comment-3351 Facing Problems Head On In Recovery Fri, 16 May 2008 12:57:03 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/#comment-3351 [...] post I recently did about learning to accept the things I cannot change got me thinking about a negative behavior that I was riddled with in active addiction…not [...] [...] post I recently did about learning to accept the things I cannot change got me thinking about a negative behavior that I was riddled with in active addiction…not [...]

]]> By: Easy Does It, But Do It: You Can’t Wait Around For Everything To Just Happen http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/comment-page-1/#comment-2526 Easy Does It, But Do It: You Can’t Wait Around For Everything To Just Happen Sat, 03 May 2008 13:06:10 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/#comment-2526 [...] we work on our ability to accept the things we cannot change we should surer than shit be working on the other part to that which is having the courage to [...] [...] we work on our ability to accept the things we cannot change we should surer than shit be working on the other part to that which is having the courage to [...]

]]> By: Kathy http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/comment-page-1/#comment-2414 Kathy Fri, 18 Apr 2008 14:02:38 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/#comment-2414 I've never had to watch an adult I love be in denial of active addiction. The addicts in my life are (some of) my children. Since they were under 18, we had a little more control over the situation...their choices were to go into rehab or lose our support. Thank God they both chose rehab and have celebrated 4 and 3 years of sobriety. If they were to choose to use now, I'd like to think I could cut off contact with them... I’ve never had to watch an adult I love be in denial of active addiction.

The addicts in my life are (some of) my children. Since they were under 18, we had a little more control over the situation…their choices were to go into rehab or lose our support. Thank God they both chose rehab and have celebrated 4 and 3 years of sobriety.

If they were to choose to use now, I’d like to think I could cut off contact with them…

]]> By: pat http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/comment-page-1/#comment-2337 pat Sat, 05 Apr 2008 01:23:45 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/#comment-2337 Great insight here. Thanks for sharing this part of you. Great insight here. Thanks for sharing this part of you.

]]> By: Erin http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/comment-page-1/#comment-2332 Erin Fri, 04 Apr 2008 13:41:57 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/#comment-2332 Bill - That is a really excellent point that I failed to mention. I think that this is the type of behavior that any addict gets accustomed to. I guess that is where the struggle comes in for me now. I know that I have the tendency to avoid acknowledging situations that need my attention. Because of that I have really made it a point to face any and all situations no matter how uncomfortable they make me feel. This new behavior has made it a little difficult for me to tell when enough is enough and I can't do anymore and should just accept the situation for what it is. Live and learn I guess. Bill – That is a really excellent point that I failed to mention. I think that this is the type of behavior that any addict gets accustomed to.

I guess that is where the struggle comes in for me now. I know that I have the tendency to avoid acknowledging situations that need my attention. Because of that I have really made it a point to face any and all situations no matter how uncomfortable they make me feel.

This new behavior has made it a little difficult for me to tell when enough is enough and I can’t do anymore and should just accept the situation for what it is. Live and learn I guess.

]]> By: Bill Urell http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/comment-page-1/#comment-2321 Bill Urell Thu, 03 Apr 2008 15:38:45 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/#comment-2321 Erin, On 'accepting the things I cannot change', I have to be careful I do not slip into my old standby problem solving method. "Ignore it and hope it goes away". When I was active in adiction, I lost the ability to look at situations to see if they needed attention, never mind if I had to do something about it. I guess its all about awareness and balance. Bill Urell Erin,
On ‘accepting the things I cannot change’, I have to be careful I do not slip into my old standby problem solving method. “Ignore it and hope it goes away”. When I was active in adiction, I lost the ability to look at situations to see if they needed attention, never mind if I had to do something about it. I guess its all about awareness and balance.

Bill Urell

]]> By: Erin http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/comment-page-1/#comment-2318 Erin Wed, 02 Apr 2008 18:15:02 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/accept-the-things-i-cannot-change/#comment-2318 I should have also mentioned having to accept that my server was hacked and my sites had to be down for a few days...that was a tough one. I should have also mentioned having to accept that my server was hacked and my sites had to be down for a few days…that was a tough one.

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