I’m not sure about any of you recovering addicts out there but I would use holidays as an excuse to get day drunk. For any of you that aren’t familiar with the term day drunk it means getting drunk during the day. I know, tricky lingo.
On Easter or Christmas or Flag Day for that matter, I would start “socially drinking” as soon as I arrived at the relatives house. What I have come to realize now that I’m not using any mood altering substances is that one of the main reasons I drank was because I would feel uncomfortable at social gatherings.
It appears that I have social anxiety that I never really paid much attention to. I would just automatically plan on having a few beers to just take the edge off. I would call it my primer. Once I got a little buzz I could open up and not be so quiet in a group of people. So that leaves me with the question: What do I do now?
I am finding that I actually enjoy speaking to other people more now that I’m not drinking or drugging. I actually listen to them talk instead of staring at them, waiting for my turn to talk or just rudely interrupting them (I had a habit of doing that). Dealing with being a little uncomfortable no longer involves me gulping down a couple of beers. Sure I have to struggle with some weird feelings at first but it passes.
I also make sure that I always have a bottle of water or some other beverage in my hand. I noticed that one of the things I liked about always having a beer in my hand was when there was a little lull in the conversation I had something to concentrate on…drinking. So I still use that trick, I just don’t drink alcohol. I still pee just as much though.
It’s horrible to say but being around relatives can drive some people to drink. I said some people, not me…my relatives are perfect! If this is the case for any of you, holidays can be a trigger. Since no one wants to relapse, you need to prepare yourself for these situations. Just talk yourself through it, weigh your options and do what the winners do… don’t drink!