Here is My Cymbalta, Where is My Libido?

May 14, 2010 — 16 Comments

Cymbalta has effected my libido…negatively effected my libido. I had previously talked about the fact that I thought my Cymbalta for depression wasn’t cutting it for me. I have discovered that I am having a negative side effect from Cymbalta: sexual dysfunction, low libido, lack of sex drive. Whatever you want to call it, I have it.

As you can imagine, having a low libido doesn’t really work out when you are in a relationship with someone that has a healthy libido. I have been taking Cymbalta for some time now and towards the end of my drug use this side effect was improving…big surprise there. I guess being messed up all the time made me oblivious to the fact that I wasn’t really into sex.

What is really weird about the whole thing is that if I didn’t have someone around me with a health libido (my husband) I don’t think I would have even noticed the problem. The only reason that it seems like a problem to me is the tension and fighting that it is causing between me and my husband.

I have to say even though I feel that Cymbalta isn’t working for my depression and now it is causing a low libido I am scared to switch antidepressants. I’m nervous that the next one won’t work either and the negative effects will be worse than the Cymbalta. Right now I am allowing myself to live in the land of the what if’s.

Even though I am nervous about it, I do have an appointment set up with someone who can adjust my medication. I’m going to try and stay positive that the next prescription will be the winner. My ideal antidepressant wouldn’t make me tired, wouldn’t make me gain weight and wouldn’t have a negative effect on my libido.

Am I looking, once again, to be able to take a pill and have everything be perfect? It may seem that way but I don’t think so. I have been told that I have depression. Since I have depression and have to take an antidepressant I just want one that I would get the most benefit from.

I think that if I stay honest with myself about what symptoms of depression I have, I won’t get caught in that “take a pill and everything will be great” way of thinking. In addition to taking medication I am also trying to make improvements in my life and to steer clear of things that are conducive to depression.

So, to my libido I say “olly olly oxen fried”. I’ll find you sucker.

16 responses to Here is My Cymbalta, Where is My Libido?

  1. I had a similar problem with a 7 year man in my life. The drinking and partying 3 days per weekend wore us down physically but in the bed he was an animal still. All inhibitions thrown out when we we plastered.

    It’s not until I realized that he went outside the relationship to get his “fix” that I realized I wasn’t reciprocating the passion and I failed. It’s hard to step out of yourself and do a self-assessment but easy to look back and see.

    Chin up hun. Makes thing better on yourself and we’ll be ok together.

  2. It”s hard to step out of yourself and do a self-assessment but easy to look back and see.

    That is an excellent point, and very well-put.

  3. i had this same problem… it was so bad it helped me make the decision to get off anti depressants all together… not only did my sex drive completely disappear (im a 25 year old male, not the most opportune time for that) every “drive” disappeared. i was “numb” as everyone so often called it and that was making my actual depression worse. i was still depressed but it was like all my feelings went away as well, though that is a contradiction thats the best way i can describe it. i just stopped my cymbalta a week ago, withdrawals suck (check out the other site) but i think its for the best. i too had to try out several medications and finally i started doubling up on medications cuz not any one was cutting it… it is hard to find the right one out there, i honestly believe after all the meds and combos ive tried that there are some people that there havent been the right medications made for yet. everyone’s chemistry is different. i can tell you along with my 2 anti depressants (that i hope to get off in the next month all together) i am taking KLONOPIN. this does seem to stabilize me somewhat. It seems some of the depressive symptoms i was feelings were actually part of mini anxiety attacks… no doctor has told me that but ive been able to come to that conclusion myself. if you havent tried an anti anxiety (ONLY, not an antidepressant that helps anxiety) i suggest researching it.

  4. me too, 34 years old and have been on Cymbalta 60Mg daily for more than 12 months after being on Cipralex (cant remember the dosage) for almost 2 years. Cipralex was absolute rubbish, but at least I had a sex drive. with the cymbalta i have been completely sexless for 13 months. No libido, no interest nothing. Now this does not really bother me, because i dont have to do something that i dont feel like doing, but i know my wife feels neglected. If it wasnt for her, i would gladly stay on cymbalta for the rest of my life and be happy (it has done some good things for me)and never shag, but i have a responsibility towards my marriage and dont know what to do.

  5. Like Stefan, my doctor also put me on Cipralex, and just like Stephan said, Cipralex IS garbage. My depression was temporarily subsiding after a few months of use. But it only took about 5 months altogether until anxiety and depression began to overwhelm me again.

    Now, I am also on Cymbalta (60mg daily). It’s been about 7 months on Cymbalta. It’s been alright… but like everyone else here, I too have lost my sex drive, feel incredibly tired by the afternoon, and I get anxiety attacks at unpredictable times weekly. This is a problem for me also since I am in a long-term relationship. Also, I can’t find myself settling at any job long-term because of my exhaustion and anxiety.

    And the WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS? They’re HORRIBLE. I don’t even know how I am supposed to switch to a new pill knowing what those are like.

    I’m not even a fan of antidepressants, but I know they’re doing something alright. Like everyone else, I ask myself… when do I get the cocktail right? *sigh*

  6. I have only been on cymbalta for 3 months but I am tired by the afternoon and absolutely no sex drive. It really sucks since I have to keep up with my one year old daughter. My husband thinks the cymbalta is working except for the no sex drive, but I still get annoyed a lot and feel like I don’t want to do anything. Just blah. And since I have no sex drive my husband and I fight about it. I don’t know what to do

    • Update~~Still no sex drive but my depression is feeling more under control. I still have bad days, particularly if I miss a pill, but they are much fewer and farther between. I agree with Stefan “No libido, no interest nothing. Now this does not really bother me, because i dont have to do something that i dont feel like doing, but i know my wife(insert husband here for me) feels neglected. If it wasnt for her(him), i would gladly stay on cymbalta for the rest of my life and be happy (it has done some good things for me)and never shag, but i have a responsibility towards my marriage and dont know what to do.”
      Is there anything that can help the loss of libido?

  7. Well I was on 60 mg for a few months. I didnt feel any different than When I was taking 30mg. So I went back. After a few more months I decided to get off them. I too am having what I call nausea in my head, dizziness, I feel off balance and tired. I quit taking it 3 weeks ago and been feeling like this for the past week now! I want it to stop! So I started takin them again. I want the sadness and nausea to stop! I hate this drug!

  8. Christopher Davis November 5, 2010 at 11:46 am

    The SSRI’s and SNRI’s will ALL lower libido, despite what the clinical data says about Cymbalta (reporting bias).

    “My ideal antidepressant wouldn’t make me tired, wouldn’t make me gain weight and wouldn’t have a negative effect on my libido”

    You just described Welbutrin. It’s not for everybody though and for some it can make anxiety worse and often-times makes people aggressive or hot tempered. I’ve found that taking 3,000 mg’s a day of EPA and DHA from fish oil takes away the aggression and improves mood too with the Welbutrin. Also, if you get insomnia from it (I did) adding Remeron at night will improve sleep quality and over time, improve your mood synergistically with the fish oil and Welbutrin. This combo has been life saving for me. The hangover form the Remeron in the morning can be rough but it largely dissipates after a few weeks and the Welbutrin is very activating so it resolves the

  9. I find remeron was working for me and not lowering my libido but had to stop it because i wanted sweet stuff all the time, ice cream, coke you name it….anddd ofcourse gaining weight rapidly. I am now on cipralex and wellbrutin and still no libido.. i have been on other antidepressants over 10yrs. i find cipralex is working (no more crying, yelling etc.) but very tired at the end of the day.
    I wish only if they can come up with an ssri that works but won’t kill the libido..
    very, very low sex drive can be a depression by itself…. makes one feel worthless in that sense!

  10. I just discovered this page and feel glad there are others on Cymbalta that experience the same thing. I’m in a serious relationship and just can’t…finish. My boyfriend is cool about it, but a low libido is a depression in itself, and not being able to reach an orgasm as a guy makes me feel incompetent. I just want my libido back.
    I didn’t realise SSRI’s and SNRI’s lower libido. If my doctor had briefed me about this, I would have completely reconsidered taking cymbalta. Yes, having no panic attacks is great, but not having a sex drive in a relationship is worse, in my opinion.

  11. i pooped my pants

  12. I’m honored to be able to share this amazing drug . It’s my anti depressant it’s called VYVANSE but it’s not an anti depressant and non habit forming 70 mg is ideal taken with 1/2 of a .25 Xanax prescribed . You can break it down . Mix it with 6 ounces of water . Drink 2 ounces of water every 3 hours. For about 17 hours of feeling normal, happy, horny, and wanting to read everything you can get your hands on . (I never enjoyed reading before) I have also learned to play 3 songs on the guitar in just 3 weeks. Sounds too good to be true ? Google it !!! Since I have been on the combination. My grades in college have went up from 80’s to 90’s + my girlfriend and I have sex when ever she wants … Lol I’m always ready . When it’s time to go to sleep . I take my other half of Xanax 30 minutes before bed. Be sure not to take Xanax before intercourse. Wait, then take it afterwards. Be safe !!! Start out very slow and low doses. Don’t take it expecting or trying to get a buzz. Because you will very easily. then it looses it’s whole purpose! Do not drink at all. I was once a social drinker. I have not had a drop of alcohol in 8 months now. But I’m more socialable than ever. I will have sprite with a splash of cola no one knows the difference and it’s just as fun. Go to the doctor tell him what you read . Remember to start on s very low dose . I would recommend 30 mg split in 6 ounces of water every 3 hours. An hour after ingestion, take vyvanse, take a 1/4 of .25 Xanax it doesn’t sound like much, but you are preventing it from coming on too strong. This was my ideal recipe. You might or will have to up your dose of Vyvanse later . I still take , pretty close to the same amount of Xanax . keep in mind Vyvanse can not be abused . It has to go through a digestion process to work. It is bonded with sn amino acid that has to be stripped off . Then it enters the frontal part of your brain. Where as they say , is the part your executive thoughts come from. I only planned to write one sentence . But here we are, this is the first time I have shared this ! GODSPEED!

  13. My boyfriend has been on Cymbalta for almost 10 years. He has absolutely no sex drive and it does cause tension. He is convinced I should go and be with someone else because I would be better off. I love him to bits, but he isn’t willing to try any other anti-depressant because he says its pretty rough going from one drug to the next. For all the partners out there – you’re not alone. For all the people struggling with their drugs – I support you fully.

  14. I’m a 39-year-old male. Like others here, I was upped to 60mg Cymbalta from 30mg and almost immediately my sex drive disappeared. Zero. I don’t even look at porn, and if I did it doesn’t interest me. I can’t even do anything manually anymore. I haven’t had an orgasm in two weeks. And I’m with a new, very sexual female partner and not being able to get an erection whatsoever is very depressing and frustrating. All I can do is apologize and feel nothing sexual myself. Yeah, Cymbalta lifted my depression somewhat, but at what cost?

  15. I was put on duloxetine in 2012 for Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (it’s being pushed as the new fibromyalgia “wonder drug” as the consultant told me) – I wasn’t warned of any side effects or withdrawal issues at all. If anything, they said it was “kinder” than most drugs available to me. It didn’t ruin my libido, that was still intact, but it ruined my ability to do anything with it as I couldn’t feel a thing “down there”. I know it would sound totally bizarre to some that someone with such high pain levels would even want it, but it was a dealbreaker for me. Good sex (with my husband I should add lol) is one thing that did break through the pain, a welcome distraction with that period after where things just weren’t so bad. I stopped after less than 2 months. Again no warning about withdrawal, the consultant said because I was on a low dose I didn’t need to titre down. Two months of hell. Noone has acknowledged that it was duloxetine that did this and none of the doctors reported the effects formally. There’s this “Well no drug is great for every person” mentality that means patients are not being warned and in the meantime it is the new fad drug to prescribe for chronic pain conditions.

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