Comments on: Trying To Remember I Have Human Imperfection http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/trying-to-remember-i-have-human-imperfection/ Stories, Struggles And Success of A Recovering Addict Trying to Do What Winners Do Thu, 04 Mar 2010 21:50:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Judith http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/trying-to-remember-i-have-human-imperfection/comment-page-1/#comment-6919 Judith Mon, 24 Aug 2009 17:26:56 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=320#comment-6919 One should remember that in order to forgive yourself, one should apologize for the hurt they might have caused to another. If the other person does not want to forgive and wants to carry around a grudge or one of those chips on their shoulder, you should then still forgive yourself with a clear conscience. Having admitted to the other that you are sorry, and having tried to explain yourself, you have every right to continue on with your life with your head held high. My problem is that the other person fails to admit the hurt and wrong they caused me. Should I forgive them for not admitting their actions and not apologizing for it. It is hard to move on and I frankly cannot with them because they don't care enough about me to preserve the relationship. Speaking of my children who have stolen tens of thousands from me when made POA for a short time, and then writing a judge making me out to be crazy and dangerous when I am not. They wanted me admitted to a psych hospital, while POA, so they could then sell my house? HOw can I trust the two children I have who both were involved in this. Where does human imperfections come to play here? I have been struggling with this for more than ten years, having not seen them for that time or my grandchildren. It looks like it is pretty hopeless to ever have a relationship with them since I cannot trust them. With neuropathy in my feet and the side effects of my medications I just cannot sort this out. Anyone know who I can talk with to get some resolution to either just go on without them, which saddens me a great deal, or try to talk with them and be abused, as my son has done recently. I tried to be the perfect mother but apparently failed them both. One should remember that in order to forgive yourself, one should apologize for the hurt they might have caused to another. If the other person does not want to forgive and wants to carry around a grudge or one of those chips on their shoulder, you should then still forgive yourself with a clear conscience. Having admitted to the other that you are sorry, and having tried to explain yourself, you have every right to continue on with your life with your head held high.
My problem is that the other person fails to admit the hurt and wrong they caused me. Should I forgive them for not admitting their actions and not apologizing for it. It is hard to move on and I frankly cannot with them because they don’t care enough about me to preserve the relationship. Speaking of my children who have stolen tens of thousands from me when made POA for a short time, and then writing a judge making me out to be crazy and dangerous when I am not. They wanted me admitted to a psych hospital, while POA, so they could then sell my house? HOw can I trust the two children I have who both were involved in this. Where does human imperfections come to play here? I have been struggling with this for more than ten years, having not seen them for that time or my grandchildren. It looks like it is pretty hopeless to ever have a relationship with them since I cannot trust them. With neuropathy in my feet and the side effects of my medications I just cannot sort this out. Anyone know who I can talk with to get some resolution to either just go on without them, which saddens me a great deal, or try to talk with them and be abused, as my son has done recently. I tried to be the perfect mother but apparently failed them both.

]]> By: zentient http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/trying-to-remember-i-have-human-imperfection/comment-page-1/#comment-6260 zentient Mon, 19 Jan 2009 14:37:58 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=320#comment-6260 When I am in a situation like this, it helps to get grounded in the present, so when the voices of self hate start to arise, stop and say to yourself "What is life asking of me in this moment?" This has been a great recovery tool for me. May it be of benefit to you. When I am in a situation like this, it helps to get grounded in the present, so when the voices of self hate start to arise, stop and say to yourself “What is life asking of me in this moment?” This has been a great recovery tool for me. May it be of benefit to you.

]]> By: Kennifer http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/trying-to-remember-i-have-human-imperfection/comment-page-1/#comment-6257 Kennifer Sun, 18 Jan 2009 17:33:47 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=320#comment-6257 Ya know its nearly never too late to apologize and explain yourself to those who matter. Deal with the guilt and recognize how it affected other people. The people that truly matter in your life may forgive you. Healing can only start with you. Ya know its nearly never too late to apologize and explain yourself to those who matter. Deal with the guilt and recognize how it affected other people.

The people that truly matter in your life may forgive you.

Healing can only start with you.

]]> By: Tazzie http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/trying-to-remember-i-have-human-imperfection/comment-page-1/#comment-6256 Tazzie Sun, 18 Jan 2009 07:10:28 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=320#comment-6256 You know that adage "When you know better you do better." It brings great perspective to the searching soul. You know that adage “When you know better you do better.” It brings great perspective to the searching soul.

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