Comments on: Nice Girls Do Finish Last http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/where-does-being-honest-in-life-get-you/ Stories, Struggles And Success of A Recovering Addict Trying to Do What Winners Do Thu, 02 Sep 2010 07:07:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jim Dearing http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/where-does-being-honest-in-life-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-7535 Jim Dearing Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:16:40 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=233#comment-7535 The bottom line is the fact that you have to live with the decisons thta you make as well as your conscience. Being "nice" is a rapidly declining asset in this world. You should consider yourself lucky to keep this midset <a href="http://www.irazorstrategies.com" rel="nofollow">Wisconsin Website Design</a> The bottom line is the fact that you have to live with the decisons thta you make as well as your conscience. Being “nice” is a rapidly declining asset in this world. You should consider yourself lucky to keep this midset

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]]> By: Cristi Vuolo http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/where-does-being-honest-in-life-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-6958 Cristi Vuolo Fri, 04 Sep 2009 20:34:08 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=233#comment-6958 I was drawn to this post when I searched Google wondering why good girls finish last? I ask myself that same question. One thing I would like to say about your post is when you said that you told the cashier she did not charge you for an item and yet all you get in the end...is a bigger bill. Although I do find that humorous, it really isn't. The fact remains that every good deed do "get noticed" and even though you didn't "get" anything from being honest other than a bigger bill...you set an example to this cashier and maybe anyone around you who might have been paying attention. Your reward for honesty, could possibly be a young child listening, while he had a stolen candy bar in his pocket, and went back to the shelf and put it back and did not decide to steal. If you only knew how any lives you have changed for the better...I bet you would feel more "rewarded" on the inside, other than looking for someone who pats you on the back and literally praises your good deeds. I know, I know...everyone needs to know they are doing the right thing and be noticed for that. That is not the way our world works all the time. So from that, you should always hold on to your morals, and never let them go for any reason, because being a good person is not a "bad" thing. I know you know this already, so i just want to "pat you on the back" and say thank you for paying for alerting the cashier she did not charge you. You are a wonderful person for that. Take care! I was drawn to this post when I searched Google wondering why good girls finish last? I ask myself that same question. One thing I would like to say about your post is when you said that you told the cashier she did not charge you for an item and yet all you get in the end…is a bigger bill. Although I do find that humorous, it really isn’t. The fact remains that every good deed do “get noticed” and even though you didn’t “get” anything from being honest other than a bigger bill…you set an example to this cashier and maybe anyone around you who might have been paying attention. Your reward for honesty, could possibly be a young child listening, while he had a stolen candy bar in his pocket, and went back to the shelf and put it back and did not decide to steal. If you only knew how any lives you have changed for the better…I bet you would feel more “rewarded” on the inside, other than looking for someone who pats you on the back and literally praises your good deeds. I know, I know…everyone needs to know they are doing the right thing and be noticed for that. That is not the way our world works all the time. So from that, you should always hold on to your morals, and never let them go for any reason, because being a good person is not a “bad” thing. I know you know this already, so i just want to “pat you on the back” and say thank you for paying for alerting the cashier she did not charge you. You are a wonderful person for that. Take care!

]]> By: sach http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/where-does-being-honest-in-life-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5578 sach Tue, 15 Jul 2008 17:10:28 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=233#comment-5578 Interesting post.. It is truly difficult being nice, since we all would naturally expect good rewards in return. If this element of expectation can be removed.. things will be lot easier I guess... - sachi-indee.blogspot.com Interesting post.. It is truly difficult being nice, since we all would naturally expect good rewards in return. If this element of expectation can be removed.. things will be lot easier I guess…

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]]> By: Kathy http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/where-does-being-honest-in-life-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-3563 Kathy Tue, 20 May 2008 13:33:32 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=233#comment-3563 I think what you're talking about is obedience to the unenforceable laws--what you do when nobody's looking. If I don't do the right thing, I know it and beat myself up over it. That leads me to feeling like a second-class citizen, and I start the downward spiral. Self worth isn't about much money or things you have, or your job or the house you live in. It's doing the "right" thing because you know you should. A real sign of spiritual growth is the ability to obey unenforceable laws. I think what you’re talking about is obedience to the unenforceable laws–what you do when nobody’s looking. If I don’t do the right thing, I know it and beat myself up over it. That leads me to feeling like a second-class citizen, and I start the downward spiral.

Self worth isn’t about much money or things you have, or your job or the house you live in. It’s doing the “right” thing because you know you should. A real sign of spiritual growth is the ability to obey unenforceable laws.

]]> By: Prester John http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/where-does-being-honest-in-life-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-3361 Prester John Sat, 17 May 2008 02:06:36 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=233#comment-3361 "Well I ain't no saint and I sure as hell ain't no savior. Every other Christmas I would practice good behavior." Like you I try and do right. And like you I realize that's it's certainly not a formula for making material progress. When my head is screwed on right, I do what I do for me. Not because I think someone may be watching. Not because I hope to reap some reward. I've just come to realize that working hard and being honest are their own rewards. And much more than 96% of the time I feel like a fool for making the right choices. To do less is to die drunk though, at least in my case. It's all or nothing for me. “Well I ain’t no saint and I sure as hell ain’t no savior. Every other Christmas I would practice good behavior.”

Like you I try and do right. And like you I realize that’s it’s certainly not a formula for making material progress. When my head is screwed on right, I do what I do for me. Not because I think someone may be watching. Not because I hope to reap some reward. I’ve just come to realize that working hard and being honest are their own rewards. And much more than 96% of the time I feel like a fool for making the right choices. To do less is to die drunk though, at least in my case. It’s all or nothing for me.

]]> By: Richard Lundquist http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/where-does-being-honest-in-life-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-3357 Richard Lundquist Fri, 16 May 2008 21:02:38 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=233#comment-3357 Can't Go A Day Without Reading I like that, if I can read and retain what I read, it means the wheels aren't turning and the tapes aren't playing in my head. It's my most reliable self checker if I don't just get lost in books. Can’t Go A Day Without Reading I like that, if I can read and retain what I read, it means the wheels aren’t turning and the tapes aren’t playing in my head. It’s my most reliable self checker if I don’t just get lost in books.

]]> By: Raj http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/where-does-being-honest-in-life-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-3355 Raj Fri, 16 May 2008 20:07:01 +0000 http://www.whatwinnersdo.com/?p=233#comment-3355 Hi, since I am in the initial periods of my recovery from drugs n drinking, I am so so enjoying the peace of mind that comes from not ripping of anyone or actually paying a bigger bill to the cashier and more meaningful relations at home. Cos when I remember about my active addiction, the thing I missed most actually about 96% of the time was the peace of mind that comes from these things, it was hell and I couldn't live with my self !! But I guess when one is in recovery and clean for a long time like you are, simply "not using drugs" won't feel so special anymore n then you are bound to feel frustrated or overwhelmed for short periods but I am glad you still cherish your family and peace of mind without drugs, I'd like to cherish that forever as well. Hi,
since I am in the initial periods of my recovery from drugs n drinking, I am so so enjoying the peace of mind that comes from not ripping of anyone or actually paying a bigger bill to the cashier and more meaningful relations at home. Cos when I remember about my active addiction, the thing I missed most actually about 96% of the time was the peace of mind that comes from these things, it was hell and I couldn’t live with my self !!
But I guess when one is in recovery and clean for a long time like you are, simply “not using drugs” won’t feel so special anymore n then you are bound to feel frustrated or overwhelmed for short periods but I am glad you still cherish your family and peace of mind without drugs, I’d like to cherish that forever as well.

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